unseenguy
02-08 05:24 AM
You need to take control of your family. The problem is that you allowed your inlaws to take control of your family. Second problem is that at the time of delivery the girl probably wanted her parents to come to US but you probably called your parents and she didnt like this nor did her parents. But that does not mean her parents will emotionally blackmail her.
1) You should tell your inlaws politely and candidly that they are interfering in your family and that needs to stop. Also communicate with your inlaws through your wife. Do not communicate with them directly. You did not marry them. They are no body to you, legally.
2) Your wife is under immense stress due to baby and parental pressure to control her. Her parents are trying to control your family through her. This is not the time to talk about separation because she has a young baby and she needs you as much as you need your baby. So you have to tell your wife what your inlaws are doing is not acceptable and just be firm that you will not tolerate it if she wants to live with you. And let her choose between her parents and you. This will be hard but you have to show some mental toughness.
3) When you got married , you started new family, you moved out of family of your parents. Though you dont have to break up with them, there may be some things that your parents do, that your wife does not like. You might think it is OK for your parents to advise or ask her to do things in certain fashion, but, it is NOT OK if she doesn't like it. She is a matured adult and can take care of her new family. So if you wish good of your parents, you have to "keep them at a safe distance." They should not interfere in your affairs.
4) You both husband and wife, need to handle each others parents in a matured way without insulting them. Both of you cant change your biological parents, but you can handle them diplomatically without insulting.
If this doesnt work, and you really want to separate, just tell your wife, that to allow things to cool down, you can live some place else for 3 months and assure her that you will take care of her and the baby. That will send a very clear message to your inlaws of the things to come. You just cant threaten to separate and run away.
Last, I do not know again how you treat your wife and inlaws. I dont mean to judge but do you treat them right? Why are they so desperate in this situation? Also I do not know any money transactions you have with inlaws, but, I would say, its not a good idea to involve inlaws in any kind of money. You invite 50% problems there.
Also I am confused, are you living in India or US?
1) You should tell your inlaws politely and candidly that they are interfering in your family and that needs to stop. Also communicate with your inlaws through your wife. Do not communicate with them directly. You did not marry them. They are no body to you, legally.
2) Your wife is under immense stress due to baby and parental pressure to control her. Her parents are trying to control your family through her. This is not the time to talk about separation because she has a young baby and she needs you as much as you need your baby. So you have to tell your wife what your inlaws are doing is not acceptable and just be firm that you will not tolerate it if she wants to live with you. And let her choose between her parents and you. This will be hard but you have to show some mental toughness.
3) When you got married , you started new family, you moved out of family of your parents. Though you dont have to break up with them, there may be some things that your parents do, that your wife does not like. You might think it is OK for your parents to advise or ask her to do things in certain fashion, but, it is NOT OK if she doesn't like it. She is a matured adult and can take care of her new family. So if you wish good of your parents, you have to "keep them at a safe distance." They should not interfere in your affairs.
4) You both husband and wife, need to handle each others parents in a matured way without insulting them. Both of you cant change your biological parents, but you can handle them diplomatically without insulting.
If this doesnt work, and you really want to separate, just tell your wife, that to allow things to cool down, you can live some place else for 3 months and assure her that you will take care of her and the baby. That will send a very clear message to your inlaws of the things to come. You just cant threaten to separate and run away.
Last, I do not know again how you treat your wife and inlaws. I dont mean to judge but do you treat them right? Why are they so desperate in this situation? Also I do not know any money transactions you have with inlaws, but, I would say, its not a good idea to involve inlaws in any kind of money. You invite 50% problems there.
Also I am confused, are you living in India or US?
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FSL
09-10 11:19 AM
This might be good news for EB3 ROW guys like me? PD AUG 2003 still waiting?
Any thoughts ? EB3 ROW visas were unavailable !!
Any thoughts ? EB3 ROW visas were unavailable !!
qualified_trash
01-03 04:28 PM
Sure, I dont think there is any one correct answer for this dilemma. Most of us are going to base our decisions on our personal circumstances and hope that they turn out correct in the long run :)
you hit the nail on the head......... :-)
you hit the nail on the head......... :-)
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spicy_guy
10-22 10:03 AM
You are correct, it took around 10 months. From prevailing wage to labor approval. 2 months I mean filing actual labor application to approval.
Thanks for the clarification
Thanks for the clarification
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ashismaity
03-10 02:28 PM
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ajitst
07-23 01:04 PM
USINPAC is not interested in Legal immigrants or anything to do with greencard issues, guys they have already got their's. They are more interested in faimily reunification and GC's for their relatives.
I am not sure even democrats are with us in legal immigration. They are just trying to bundle this with illegal immigration issues and using it to negotiate with more business oriented republicans. I think IV should work more closely with republicans to decouple these two issues. I think its common misconception spread by American Indians (USINPAC) that democrats are pro-immigration.
I am not sure even democrats are with us in legal immigration. They are just trying to bundle this with illegal immigration issues and using it to negotiate with more business oriented republicans. I think IV should work more closely with republicans to decouple these two issues. I think its common misconception spread by American Indians (USINPAC) that democrats are pro-immigration.
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MeraNaamJoker
09-27 09:49 AM
Arrived in early 1999
started processing GC in 2000
filed 1st application in 2000
left the company, filed second application in 2001
bad immigration management by the company, got the labor approved only in October 2006
got I 140 in February 2007
applied for I485 in June 2007
got EAD on September 2007
got GC approval email on August 5th, 2010
FINALLY GOT GC ON AUGUST 16th, 2010
started processing GC in 2000
filed 1st application in 2000
left the company, filed second application in 2001
bad immigration management by the company, got the labor approved only in October 2006
got I 140 in February 2007
applied for I485 in June 2007
got EAD on September 2007
got GC approval email on August 5th, 2010
FINALLY GOT GC ON AUGUST 16th, 2010
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a1b2c3
09-10 12:08 PM
Just when you thought you had it you missed it :D
I think they will eventually open up EB2, unless their plan is to clear EB3-I first (which would not be unfair I think).
See one of my earlier posts, one of the core issues is the sudden forward and then sudden backward movements in the dates.
If the demand is anticipated correctly, there shouldn't be need for closing the window at all!
I think they will eventually open up EB2, unless their plan is to clear EB3-I first (which would not be unfair I think).
See one of my earlier posts, one of the core issues is the sudden forward and then sudden backward movements in the dates.
If the demand is anticipated correctly, there shouldn't be need for closing the window at all!
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eb3_nepa
03-09 12:22 PM
Guys a little confused.
How does removing the cap from Schedule A, benefit the rest of us?
How does removing the cap from Schedule A, benefit the rest of us?
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h1techSlave
08-18 10:29 AM
I also wanted to send the letter, but saw a ton of comments on the original letter. It would be a good idea, if some one goes thru the comments and update the letter in the original post. I think we should all send a decent letter.
grupak/mirage/pani6
i support your efforts and have printed out and sent letters to the people mentioned. Momentum for release of information should build up even if we have 50-100 letters from affected people...otherwise people won't know of EB-3 IND's plight.
I suppose we should followup with phone calls in 15 days to cement our request. We should have a poll on who all has sent the letter and made the call.
grupak/mirage/pani6
i support your efforts and have printed out and sent letters to the people mentioned. Momentum for release of information should build up even if we have 50-100 letters from affected people...otherwise people won't know of EB-3 IND's plight.
I suppose we should followup with phone calls in 15 days to cement our request. We should have a poll on who all has sent the letter and made the call.
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add78
06-10 05:13 PM
multiple year eads & ap - may or may not happen
visa recapture - no chance
visa increase - will not happen
still contribute??
They said the same thing about Clinton having the Dem nomination locked up a year ago. :) Do not underestimate the power of grassroots organization, unified efforts, public awareness and its influence over the representatives, call/fax/flower campaigns and active lobbying. Do not get discouraged and keep trying till you succeed.
The Multi-Year EAD happened today. Others will too. All we have to do is try and follow the Action Items. And urge others to join and do the same.
visa recapture - no chance
visa increase - will not happen
still contribute??
They said the same thing about Clinton having the Dem nomination locked up a year ago. :) Do not underestimate the power of grassroots organization, unified efforts, public awareness and its influence over the representatives, call/fax/flower campaigns and active lobbying. Do not get discouraged and keep trying till you succeed.
The Multi-Year EAD happened today. Others will too. All we have to do is try and follow the Action Items. And urge others to join and do the same.
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perm2gc
07-23 03:22 PM
Hey you are mentioning that you are in EB3 India with a Priority date of AUG 2004. When did you file for the I-485. To my knowledge it was never until this July Fiasco. Can you please explain.
Concurrent filing was present at that time :D
Concurrent filing was present at that time :D
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chi_shark
04-10 12:48 PM
hey, how about doing something a la steve jobs. each post should cost $0.99. ??? what say?
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GCBy3000
02-12 02:26 PM
Check here on how to support IV with contribution.
http://immigrationvoice.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=26&Itemid=25
Hi All,
I'm new to immigration Voice. I've read abt this in immigration portal and understand that a group of people are leading this. I wish them all the best and i extend my full support. Also i heard that this group is collecting funds. Can someone please point me where would i contribute.
Thanks
RAJ
SWA: Virginia
SWA Receipt Date (Priority Date): October 31,2002
EB2 - RIR
Forwarded to Philadelphia Regional DOL on June 22, 2004
BEC Case Number: P-04282-*****
45 Day Letter Received and Replied : Feb 2005
http://immigrationvoice.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=26&Itemid=25
Hi All,
I'm new to immigration Voice. I've read abt this in immigration portal and understand that a group of people are leading this. I wish them all the best and i extend my full support. Also i heard that this group is collecting funds. Can someone please point me where would i contribute.
Thanks
RAJ
SWA: Virginia
SWA Receipt Date (Priority Date): October 31,2002
EB2 - RIR
Forwarded to Philadelphia Regional DOL on June 22, 2004
BEC Case Number: P-04282-*****
45 Day Letter Received and Replied : Feb 2005
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hsd31
09-01 01:33 PM
kalinga_sena case seems to be the worst.
Besides kalinga_sena and me, looks like gclabor07 and mgmanoj have also been in the US 10+ years and still don't have an EAD. That will be an interesting poll too: 10+ years in the US and still no EAD.
Besides kalinga_sena and me, looks like gclabor07 and mgmanoj have also been in the US 10+ years and still don't have an EAD. That will be an interesting poll too: 10+ years in the US and still no EAD.
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vandanaverdia
09-13 07:16 PM
milind123...
U r doing a great job... I am sure we will have many first time contributors get inspired by your fabulous initiative!
GO IV!!!
U r doing a great job... I am sure we will have many first time contributors get inspired by your fabulous initiative!
GO IV!!!
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indio0617
03-09 10:06 AM
senator brownback: amendment on Nurses & Physical therapists (removing cap for India, Phi, Mexico)
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ink_123
07-18 06:45 PM
Will do more in the future. Thanks IV for all your efforts
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skv
06-18 01:13 PM
goes to automated voicemail:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
B'cox, they are receiving lots of call recently due to PD movement. :-)
Hope they will respond, if you had left a voice mail.
B'cox, they are receiving lots of call recently due to PD movement. :-)
Hope they will respond, if you had left a voice mail.
bobzibub
06-26 07:46 PM
nothing if people leave!! and similarly it gains a little bit if people stay and continue.
which raises a good point for the author (who started the thread) ... earlier it was a unwritten rule that a person gets GC in max 5 years ..but as times changed immigration rule did not change and hence we have long wait lines nowadays ..
how much US loses ..a study will have to be done ..but I remember reading a story about a UN study ..which said immigration helps all countries as long as it is controlled (study may have included little bit of uncontrolled too) ..so it said even India gains from illegal bangladeshi's ..because they do lot of work which many Indians don't do. and ofcourse in today's world background check is a must.
how it helps ..most of us know ..immigrant stays at his job for a long time..to keep the status ..whereas natives keep hopping. hence lot of expense in training (this applies from a restaurant to a hi fi IT company).
the point is at what point the person in line will break (and go elsewhere) ..maybe a study has to be done (no one would do it though).
some reports did say that lot of Indians and Chinese went back to their countries (not necessarily for immi ..but I won't be surprised if USCIS was a key factor ..some of my friends (atleast 10 -15) left and now work from India ...and are training more people out there, pay taxes there, all services (from grocery to tourism taxes, education etc etc etc there) ...
The illegal immigrants working in the Swift meat packing plant when ICE raided cost Swift almost $100k per individual, if I recall. Consider what skilled immigrants cost the economy. I've worked in my company for four years now. They could replace me, but there is a lot of knowledge lost if I walk or have to leave.
For people to claim that employees can be replaced with little or no cost, especially skilled employees, they betray their lack of knowledge of economics.
which raises a good point for the author (who started the thread) ... earlier it was a unwritten rule that a person gets GC in max 5 years ..but as times changed immigration rule did not change and hence we have long wait lines nowadays ..
how much US loses ..a study will have to be done ..but I remember reading a story about a UN study ..which said immigration helps all countries as long as it is controlled (study may have included little bit of uncontrolled too) ..so it said even India gains from illegal bangladeshi's ..because they do lot of work which many Indians don't do. and ofcourse in today's world background check is a must.
how it helps ..most of us know ..immigrant stays at his job for a long time..to keep the status ..whereas natives keep hopping. hence lot of expense in training (this applies from a restaurant to a hi fi IT company).
the point is at what point the person in line will break (and go elsewhere) ..maybe a study has to be done (no one would do it though).
some reports did say that lot of Indians and Chinese went back to their countries (not necessarily for immi ..but I won't be surprised if USCIS was a key factor ..some of my friends (atleast 10 -15) left and now work from India ...and are training more people out there, pay taxes there, all services (from grocery to tourism taxes, education etc etc etc there) ...
The illegal immigrants working in the Swift meat packing plant when ICE raided cost Swift almost $100k per individual, if I recall. Consider what skilled immigrants cost the economy. I've worked in my company for four years now. They could replace me, but there is a lot of knowledge lost if I walk or have to leave.
For people to claim that employees can be replaced with little or no cost, especially skilled employees, they betray their lack of knowledge of economics.
a2006
07-05 03:21 PM
It is always an option for any one with in their org, but if his point is wrong, then IV core leadership should prove him that they are not sitting idle or moving very very slow.
Every one starting their own organization or asking to do so doesn't solve the purpose.
Why cant he start an initiative and take it to completion and show everybody that he can do something. IV is for everybody just complaining wouldn't take us far. :confused:
Every one starting their own organization or asking to do so doesn't solve the purpose.
Why cant he start an initiative and take it to completion and show everybody that he can do something. IV is for everybody just complaining wouldn't take us far. :confused:
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